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Okay so long, long story short.
My frosh year I started dating this girl....dated her the entire year. Fell totally for her, but she cheated on me with my best friend of 8 years.

Things got bad, we didnt talk for 2 years.

Suddenly she walks back into my life saying she broke up with her recent boy toy.

I´m still absolutely in love with her and can´t even figure out why....just am.

So I´m hanging with her the past couple weeks...last night she mentions she´s still sleeping with this recent ex, and thats why shes not looking for anything serious.

It hurts but I pretty much suck it up and deal with it and just not let it bug me. But today we go see a movie, and she totally pushes me away and wants nothing to do with me, and has me take her home after the movie.

What do I do ?


I think I shouldn´t contact her at all. Am I right ? But this ex of hers is moving out of her house and to Washington in 4 days. Once he´s gone and if she starts to talk to me again, should I go for it since he wont be around ?
 

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Well hopefully I´m as good at chick advice as I am car advice. Any way, I say as hard as it may be you need to drop her ass like a bad habit. I was engaged to a chick for a year and she slept with a frind of mine while I was away. After I forgave her for it and took her back, she just ended up dumping my a month before we were going to get married. To this day I still have feelings for her deep down, but I keep them deep down. No matter how much I wan´t to just see how she´s doing, I remeber what she did and how she hurt me, and I say F-it. She´s not worth my time anymore. Besides all my friends say she became a real slut after she dumped me, and started sleeping with guys 20 yrs older than her. If you weren´t good enough for her then, she´s not good enough for you now. I´ve been with a lot of chicks cince then, and I´m glad she broke up with me, because I´ve done alot of stuff I wouldn´t have been able to do if we would have gotten married. You´ll find someone new, TRUST ME. And with a pimp ass Scort like you have, chicks should come flocking to you. Well maybe not, but they are out there. I see your from Prescott, maybe you should come down to "The Valley" some day and we could both go find us some hunnies. You just be you, and stay cool and it will all work out for the better. And remember no matter how much crap your car gives you, it´s still more reliable than a woman.

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[ Edited by Pimp_scort_89_GT On Date 07-07-2002 ]
 

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Give her the boot, you don´t need a woman that plays games like that, your supposed to do the playin. If she comes back tell her "No Thanks, you had a better offer" it´ll drive her crazy and if it doesn´t, who cares at least you don´t have to deal with her any more. Somebody once told me "All women are B*****S except your mom and even your dad thinks shes a B****H.
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heh let her go. cause if she´s done it once she´ll do it again. on the other hand if shes not lookin for anything serious and your bored, well ya know....
but keep it like that.
 

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TO HELL WITH HER!! Put your foot in her ass and get rid of her. I´ve been in your shoes too bro just like most of us. I know its going to hurt to do it, but believe me it will be for the best if you just get her out of your life! Speaking from experience!!
 

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I would stay in contact with her.Now before you freak just realize at one time she was or still is attracted to you,and the best medicine for someone like that is regret.Just about every girl I have ever been with would drop everything if I asked them to come back.Men don´t realize that while we spend our time chasing women we don´t have to.I have stayed friends with most of my x girl friends but continue with my life and there is nothing better then being the one with the power.They may try to play with your mind and be the one to hold the keys but in reality the key is this,if you never allow anyone to control your emotions you are the one in control.Men have a tendancy to base decisions on fact rather than emotion.Women are the opposite.therfore your decisions can guide her emotions.Just stay in control of your emotions and you will be making all the decisions.It is great when they realize the mistakes that they have made, and if you have remained level the entire time she will truley regret what she has done.Never close a door behind you let them be the one to do it.Most won´t ever close a door completely.If they do oh well, now you have the keys so you can lock it.
 

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I am a chick and I say you are asking for it. You are willingly being her doormat. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. She´s shown you she doesn´t care and can walk all over you and you continue to let her. As hard as it is, grow some balls the tell the tramp to F-off.
 

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I´m with zx2pos all 100%.
Be a man. Show her that you´re not her pillow for crys. You love her becasue you´re seeing her trough your fantasy glasses. She is not all that. she is a classic biatch. Trust me when you´ll show her your back you´ll feel much stronger like a person. Don´t be afraid to be alone. Being alone is the best thing in the world to be totally free.!

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In response to AleX´s comment: AMEN!!
 

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I traded my fantasy glasses in years ago for a pair of cheap sun glasses that fiter out those harmful female B.S. rays. Maybe that´s what you need. And a tube of SPF 80 female B.S. block. As far as the metion earlier about if she´s not looking and your bored. Make sure you both know for a fact that that´s all there is to the relationship if you do go that route. I don´t know how many times I´ve tried that route and had it backfire one way or another. Either she gets reattached and I finally realize I don´t want her, or I start hoping something might change in her an it never does. Keeping in touch is one thing, but don´t go out of your way to be around her. In fact you might want to turn down her next invite somewhere just to show her that you can stand on your own two feet (unless she wants to take you to a fancy resteraunt and shes picking up the bill. Then I´d turn down the next invite), and don´t ask her to do anything until you have shown her that you can get along fine without her. Then it will mean more if you decide to ask her. But keeping contact is the nice guy route. And nice guys do finish last in this case.
 

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I fall in line behind all the other guys (and girl) here. Its been done to me and all my friends too at one time or another. I think it is a ritual thing. FORGET HER. Tell her you got other plans. Avoid her at all costs. She will just burn you again. They don´t change when they are like that. EVER.
 

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I knew there was a reason why I loved the FEOA. You´re advice is unanimous and hearing it from both male and female perspectives really makes it fit.

Yeah I didn´t even try talking to her since Saturday night, and I know tomorrow when her f*&% buddy ex moves out to Washington after a couple days she might try talking to me again. I´ve been pretty bored for awhile (Prescott SUCKS...the guy girl ratio here is like 1:12). But, I guess the power is realizing I´ll always care about her, but being smart enough not to let it become anything serious.

As far as going down to the Valley and hanging out.... HELL YEAH! Should get Matt and make it a scort meet. I´m on 1/32 tread on my front right....but as soon as I get some new tires it sounds like a good way to wrap the summer up.

Thanx Everyone
 

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I see atleast one person found my coment about those harmful female BS rays amusing


Anyway Blade, I´m glad you listened to everyone and I hope you are going to stick with your guns on this issue. I had to tell off a female friend of mine this weekend. She thought her BS rays could out shine me, but i showed her what´s up. I´m just scared she is going to start stalking me. She was a bit on the looney side, hince me giving her the boot. If you ever want to come down to the Valley and hang out let me know. I know how it is up there in Prescott (Press-cot)
(It´s an AZ thing). I´d get those tires changed first though. I just had a blow out last week, and it wasn´t fun. But I have four fresh rubber donuts just beggin to go to the track and tested out. Plus I should finally have a bumper this week so the Chicks won´t laugh (as hard) at my car anymore when I honk at them. Anyway, keep your head high and your ET´s low and and the rest will come easier than cruise control.
 

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Hey man, I just got over y ex, I met her freshmen year in HS and now im a freshmen in college, and we broke up junior year and all that summer we didnt talk or see eachother but she came back in my life and walked ALL over me, dont let her do it! Just let her go and find someone esle better! It took another girl to change my heart! Now im sooo happy I got over her and found someone that wont walk all over me! goood luck! Be tough!
 

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Just wanted update everyone.
Yeah, I stopped talking to her...it hurts, but wanted to say THANKS to everyone. It really does help get life back on track and all.
 

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Good call Blade. I was wondering what ever happened, and if you went though with it. As far as the chick I told off and though she would start stalking me, well she did. After a month of not answering her calls she shows up at my work one day and waited by my car till I got off and started getting all touchy feely and lets go back to my place on me. So I jumped in the Pimp_scort, started it up and flew out of that parking lot like a bat out of hell, or at least as close to one as an Escort can get. Luckly she owns a Nissan pickup and I left her in my dust. Also thank god I was smart enough not to show her where I live. Anyway, she calls the next day and I tell her to leave me alone or I would get a court order against her. I think she might have finally got the message. Women are weird, but I guess haveing a few bad apples will make you appreciate the good one that you will find eventually. I´ve been surfing the net to try to find a new one, but I think I´m finally convinced that isn´t the way to go. I need to start socializing more. Anyway, If your ever on this side of the state, let me know and we´ll can go strut our stuff down at ASU. Theres bound to be atleast two normal chicks around there some where, but if not, I´ll take the Blonde with the big boobs, and you can have the redhead with the gret legs
 

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Hey Blade, I don´t know if they play this song up in Presott, only one station here in the valley plays it that I know of, but every time I hear it I think of this Post. It´s buy Real Big Fish and it´s called go to hell, and it goes a little something like this...

You called me up last night in tears,
You said you missed me after all these years
I´ve been waiting here so long
I´ve gotten over it since youve been gone

You called me late last night again
You said you´re finished with your new boyfriend
Asked if you could come back home
So sorry that you lest me all alone

Well
You say you love, you love me again
But if you love me where have you been
You say you need me more than anyone else
Well go to hell
Where have you been.

You showed up at my door today.
You said friend why do you push me away
Life with him was just so dull
But what we had was something wonderful

Yea
You say you love, you love me again
But if you love me where have you been
You say you need me more than anyone else
Well go to hell
Where have you been.

No way
You wish
I don´t
Need this
What makes you think I´d ever want you again

Yea right
As if
I don´t
Need this
What makes you think I´d ever want you again
Again

You can see why It makes me think of this post. If she ever trys anything on you again, you should send her this song. Maybe she´ll get the point.
 
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