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well you know how they say you cant be friends with the person that you last had a long-term relationship with? well i had this happen. we were together for 3 years, and were "friends"for a few monts,,,, but i had the painful realization that it just doesnt work. its too much pain and drama. you know what they say:

"love is like a boomerang, if you throw it on its own adventure, and it comes back, then it was meant to be. if you throw it and it gets nailed by another tree, and it doesnt come back, it wasnt meant to be."


wtf, i never thought that someone could have this much power on me...
words of wisdome?
 

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lesson learned. I think that you will get over it fast. especially with the way that you like to talk about women.
 

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well you know how they say you cant be friends with the person that you last had a long-term relationship with? well i had this happen. we were together for 3 years, and were "friends"for a few monts,,,, but i had the painful realization that it just doesnt work. its too much pain and drama. you know what they say:

"love is like a boomerang, if you throw it on its own adventure, and it comes back, then it was meant to be. if you throw it and it gets nailed by another tree, and it doesnt come back, it wasnt meant to be."

wtf, i never thought that someone could have this much power on me...
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It's ok. I'm sure You and Highanddry will work it out.. :lol: :lol: :lol:

anyway.. just two days ago, two friends of mine broke uip.. they were going out for almost 2 years.. she's pretty upset, needless to say.. i guess i'll see how it works out..
 

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That's how it is. You can't really just "dismiss" those feelings. And the friendship usually instill's a false hope that the relationship will repair itself or that yall might get back together or something. It's usually better to just burn the bridge and/or go your seperate ways so you don't continue to hurt yourself. Just do something and take your mind off of shit. Build a model, make some meth, go see a play or something, compose an orchestral peice.
 

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i've tried it with minimal success.. the only relationship i was able to be friends after we broke up was the girl i went out with in jr. high. i mean, c'mon, it was jr. high!!

but i find what makes it easier to cope is to avoid her at all costs!! well, it sorta helps. i had a girl who i broke up with, and saw her two months later and she had gained 50lbs. so yeah, that recent picture of her i saw is forever etched in my mind.
 

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It's ok. I'm sure You and Highanddry will work it out.. :lol: :lol: :lol:
This is great... for a while, highanddry was always startin stuff... now its alll coming back... :wink: :D
 

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could alway do a clinton..... I did not...have ...sexual relations with that woman....cheer up buddy...stuff happens 3 years is a long time....but you'll get over it....its not the end of the world...and i should know...
 

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yeah I had a similar situation with a girl about 9 months ago. she wanted to" stay friends" but she just didn't know how. It does take some time, I was pretty upset for a few months, but you move on and find someone else and start all over again. and who knows maybe she just has some growing up to do. But definitely don't get too put out by it, that only causes more problems and prevents you from seeing the other great women around you. Yeah I'm only 20 and I already sound like my dad...
 

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im 19,... the good news is i came "Across" some info that has allowed me to eaz the pain a little bit. last night was her 18th bday...we all know where this is going. but ya, i took everything that was flame-able and did just that. now the anxiety attacks have stopped (for the moment)... so my buddy was good enough to hook me up with some redrum...mmm rum.

thx guys
 

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One day, you'll realize that you learned a lot of valuable things from this.

Girls come and girls go. You're 19 and have a lot of the world to see still.

People always act victimized. Don't. I'd try to view it as an opportunity for change..and change is good.
 

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ya ive learned a few things already:
1) Never trust a female EVER EVER EVER EVER
2) They will manipulate and lie to get what they want
3)"love" is just a word. what you feel is really lust.
4) rum and beer is good
5) eminem was right... b^7ch3s they come they go.. saterday thru sunday, monday
6) id rather be with 1 person than 15
7) ive had my share of "others" and i dont like it.
8) "doubling up" really sucks.
 

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You haven't actually learned from this yet. You're just pissed off.

1) Never trust a female EVER EVER EVER EVER
--> WRONG. Eventually, there will be a woman that you must trust completely. If you don't, it won't work either.

2) They will manipulate and lie to get what they want
--> SURE. Men are worse at this than women though, by a mile. We all try to get what we want; this is human nature. To lie is also human nature.

3) "love" is just a word. what you feel is really lust.
--> WRONG. One day, you'll find someone that sees the world the way you do. Then you'll have learned.

4) rum and beer is good
--> SORT OF. Beer is good. I don't care for rum. Scotch is awful.

5) eminem was right
--> NO. Please don't take life lessons from this man.

6) id rather be with 1 person than 15
--> NO COMMENT. Some people enjoy a goold ol' gang bang. To each his own.

7) ive had my share of "others" and i dont like it.
--> NO COMMENT. Again, to each his own. Just don't buy the shoe if it doesn't fit. Some people need to try on a lot of shoes before they find their Birkenstock. I went through racks and racks before I found mine. :lol: . Sometimes the best ones aren't on display - they're in the back room.

8 ) "doubling up" really sucks.
--> NO COMMENT. I'm a one woman man and I trust my wife is a one man woman. Why would she go elsewhere? - I drive an Escort.
 

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Hey Marclar... 19 here too, ended a 2 and a half year relationship.... it was hard. I ended up having to avoid her, cause we tried to be friends, then stuff started happening, and then we got back together, it was worse than ever. I'd say just avoid her. Don't return the calls, block her on the net, all that stuff for a bit. It was the hardest thing that ever happened to me, but I ended up better for it. I have a hard time trusting girls now, but me and her ex-best friend have been getting along great for the past 6 months with no fights (the story isn't as bad as it sounds... nobody really got hurt, just pissed). I've found now that I'm in a relationship, I can be her friend, but I don't want to any more! Don't rush into anything. If you're the type of guy that doesn't need a relationship for sex though, go for it. I personally have only been with 2 girls, and I can't screw around with someone I don't care about. As for Eminem.... listen to the things he says... beyond all the swearing, he's said a lot of very knowledgeable things..... that would be why 8 mile is one of my favourite movies, although not everything he says is right. (Mind you Hitler was also a genius... he was just crazy and did stupid things). My ex lied to me about anything you can think of, so I seriously know about the trust thing... I still think that she cheated on me too. But as someone else mentioned about their ex.... mine has got fat and become a real $lut... so it's kinda funny! Yes, women can manipulate you... but only the wrong one will do that while you're dating. After you're married though, it'll start regardless! LOL! Rum and beer aren't bad. Scotch is great.... just don't drink it and beer in the same night.... You'll be praying to the porceline god. I'd also rather be with 1 person than 15, but you have to have some fun. What I did was I started hangin out with my female friends, and then sparks just kinda happened. If you're like me though, you probably got rid of most of your friends for the girl, so just start callin old friends, they'll be suprisingly glad to hear from you, even if you treated them like $h1t. Doubling up blows if you're "going out" but if you're just kinda lookin around, just let the girl that you're looking, but you're hanging out with all your female friends. Also.... spend time workin on the car, listen to come crappy music, don't be afraid to be upset, just don't spend the rest of your life with the "what if's". But ya, just don't give up is probably the best thing to say. If you get into a relationship and there's arguing and stuff right away, get right back out, it isn't necessary. Be blunt with her..... "I can't be friends with you right now, I don't want to get back together, but I can't help but thinking about the past. If you care enough about me that you want to be my friend, you should care enough that it will take time." And NEVER let her know if you're out with another girl, and NEVER tell her what you're doing. Even the stupidest girls will get the point eventually. Also, never bad mouth her with ur dates, they don't want to hear about it, and if they do, don't say good stuff about her either. Say sappy crap like I thought that she was the right one when we were dating, now I realise that we were wrong for each other. If you say "She was a b1tch" girls think that you treat other girls like crap.
 

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thx 96... makes me think. ie had my share of one night stands and htey have their ups and downs. i would much rather be with my x for the rest of my crazy fuked up life.. but we all know that will never happen. she called me today and tried to talk to me for an hr,, she was acting like nothing ever happend. when i told ehr iw as going to my other chick friends house she started balling and such. its just sooooo dam hard. shes just afraid to let me go permanently. and i too, but i think its for the best. the last 3 years have been the best ever. i will never forget it. but now that i have gotten rid of all the shit she got me and i colected that reminds me of her, its gotten better. if any of you know who tom leykis is, his teachings have made me abtetter person, but im still amazed at how"pussy'i have become.

party on.
 

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Ya, I wouldn't have told her ur friend was a girl, but I went through exactly what you did. We went through hours of talking, all the crying, etc.... She got pissed and jealous when I told her I was going to a female friends house, so I just started saying I was busy, because i realised it wasn't her business. I too believed that even with the crap that I wanted to be with her, but I am glad that it's done with now. I'm a lot happier. There's obviously a reason that you broke up, so just write the pros and cons list... i.e. a lot of arguing, good sex, constantly a bad mood, etc.....

You have to experience it first hand. I went through weeks of getting back together and breaking up. I had people tell me what to do, but if you're anything like me.... I didn't listen either.
 
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